Kids Can Find Emotional Resilience.

Kids Emotional Resilience Article on PTA website

I (Annette) was asked by the PTA (Parents and Teachers Association) how CHAMPS helps kids and young people cope with the pressures of life today.

The answers can be found in the article I wrote for them>>

Hope you find it useful. If so, please like and share it. 

Summer holidays are a  time when your child is relaxed and happy without the usual school anxieties and concerns. Not wanting to wish the time away, you know it’ll soon be the usual rush for new school uniforms, shoes etc. but then the anxiety starts!

Last September was the busiest ever month for CHAMPS Confidence coaching for stressed out children, teens and their fraught parents. The emotions of the new term can be overwhelming unless they are addressed and managed in good time. 

Commonly known as the ‘back to school blues’, thousands of kids and teens struggle with anxiety and negative emotions with the thought of returning to school after the holidays, don’t let yours be one of them.

Here are some helpful tips:

  1. Take Positive Action. Don’t allow the emotion to take over. 
  2. Talk about how you feel.
  3. Change your mindset and mental state by asking better questions. A great question is… “What has to happen for me to feel better about School?”
  4. Create a positive outcome. Think about how you would like to feel.
  5. Don’t let people get in your head. Easier said than done… but block them out with positive actions and thoughts. 
  6. Remembers things are NEVER as bad as they first appear. 
  7. Get some anxiety about school coaching to help.

Hope these tips help.

Thanks, Annette 😉

Fondly referred to as the professional woman’s Oscars, the Venus Awards are something many woman only dream of.

So as you can imagine I’m super thrilled to be in the final 3 for the Influential Woman Venus Awards for the Portsmouth region sponsored by VW Peter Cooper.

VW Peter Cooper Venus Awards Sponsor

So what exactly is an ‘Influential Woman’? 

“Motivates others and makes a difference”

CHAMPS Academy has been making a difference in the lives of young people for over 14 years, helping them to build confidence, resilience and believe in themselves through…

  • Skype Coaching
  • Workshops
  • DVDs
  • Audios
  • Special Themed Webinars
  • Kids Confidence App

Providing proactive solutions and practical help so young people achieve all they can in life.

There’s something emerging in the mobile world that every parent must know about to protect the emotional well-being of their child.

Social Media Anxiety Disorder is on the increase with many teenagers confessing to ‘being lost without their phone’ and admitting to checking it within a few minutes of waking up each morning (not to mention the average of 134 times during the day)!

The concerning issue is around young people’s FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), the perpetual trap of missing something. Missing a great post, missing some ‘exclusive’ news one of their ‘friends’ shared and they don’t want to be the last to know. This has created an unhealthy obsession leaving young people stressed, exhausted because of poor sleep quality and more prone to mind based issues.

Too much importance placed on socialising online can result in what I refer to as the Triple-A effect: Attention, Approval and Acceptance. Gaining likes, followers and comments can deliver a momentary boost for young people, but this only provides a false sense of endorsement that feeds the ego for a moment before the next wave of approval must be gained, creating a perpetual spiral of emotions. As a result, people resort to sharing more daring and often untrue information, to gain the acceptance on social media that they’re not able to receive in the real world.

A study presented at a British Psychological Society conference in Manchester by researchers, Dr Heather Cleland Woods and Holly Scott of the University of Glasgow. They provided questionnaires for 467 teenagers regarding their overall and night-time specific social media use. A further set of tests measured sleep quality, self-esteem, anxiety, depression and emotional investment in social media which relates to the pressure felt to be available 24/7 and the anxiety around, for example, not responding immediately to texts or posts

Dr Cleland Woods explained: “Adolescence can be a period of increased vulnerability for the onset of depression and anxiety, and poor sleep quality may contribute to this. It is important that we understand how social media use relates to these. Evidence is increasingly supporting a link between social media use and wellbeing, particularly during adolescence, but the causes of this are unclear”.

Addicted Pupils

And a surprising connection to the rise in anxiety and emotional issues in the classroom is pupils’ nomophobia ~ the fear of being out of mobile phone contact.

The mind quickly becomes consumed with fear and panic displaying physical manifestations such as panic attacks, shortness of breath, dizziness, shakes and even fainting.

The importance young people place on their mobile to the point of addiction and the extreme anxiety felt being without it was further highlighted in the ‘Sara Cox on Friendship’. The insightful W Channel documentary about the personal impact of technology and what it means to be a ‘friend’ in the 21st century.

This also revealed that with so much reliance on their mobile, teens quickly lose other essential skills like initiative to work out where their friends are hanging out in college or resilience to adapt to things changing.

So if your teenager is in danger of ‘text-neck’, FOMO and nomophobia then time for a mini digital detox to help them appreciate there are still many real-world experiences they need to manage emotional wellbeing.

When the clocks change to mark the end of British Summertime, the nights start to draw in and kids can find themselves walking home from school or afternoon activities at dusk.

Because children don’t have the same sense of time or judgement they often hang around, chat with mates and only realise they should be near home when it’s getting dark. This can leave them anxious, vulnerable, and disorientated which cause them to make misjudgments, not to mention make you feel on edge until they come through the door.

It’s reported that minor road traffic incidents involving kids increase just after the clocks change. Children are less able to judge speed and distance during dusk and quickening darkness.

It’s also a time that sees an increase in bullying incidents too.

Here’s how to help your child keep safe during the darker months…

  1. Help them become more aware of their surroundings. Point out landmarks, safe routes and encourage them to always look and listen so they can make appropriate and safe decisions
  2. When picking them up from afternoon activities, get them to always stand in a well-lit or busy area.
  3. Do they T-walk? In other words do they text and walk at the same time? ‘Distraction Disorientation’ is the quickest way for a situation to happen. Headphones, mobiles and other distractions all create a false reality of being transported elsewhere that consumes their attention
  4. Be aware of any abnormalities with your child’s bag, clothing or other school items that could indicate a situation of intimidation or bullying
  5. Encourage your child to be open with you about anything that happens outside school. Often kids blame themselves for others behaviour so feeling like they can talk to you helps to catch situations early

By Annette Du Bois