Do you find sometimes your child lacks motivation or the get up and go? For example...
...from homework to activities. Perhaps getting on with household chores (and depending on age if they don’t have this responsibility it’s helpful they start).
It’s natural for us all to lose a bit of oomph from time to time, life gets busy, we get tired and your child will have similar moments.
Quite often we wait for the inspiration to get motivated… still waiting? Rather than waiting, it’s better to just get started on something that creates both motivation and inspiration, the momentum to keep going.
Imagine our body like a power station. It doesn’t have energy, it generates energy. We must generate the initial push, and then the creativity follows.
Motivation works best when it comes after the action has already started. When your child is stuck, struggling with the enthusiasm, here are some helpful tips to rev up that motivated energy again.
1: Start by doing something, anything.
If it’s homework, get your child started by doodling, or making a list of things they enjoy. The initial momentum of writing has begun, they can continue this motivation into writing and completing homework.
Getting off the sofa or off gaming (yes please, I hear you say!).
Chat with them or get them to think about what they like or want to do next. Or ask them to help you with something for a moment, then whilst they’re up and more active, they can then get on with other things.
And household tasks!
Start by making a drink or a quick snack, as they’re getting things out and tidying away, the initial activity has begun, they just continue on to complete the tasks and then have something rewarding or relaxing to do at the end.
This method of motivation is much more positive because your child is looking at the fact that they’re already doing something and asking themselves to keep going. They can think, “Hooray for me, look at how much I’ve got done, what else can I do!”
Depending on the situation and the emotions your child feels about it... sometimes action alone isn’t enough. If so, they can try this…
2: Act ‘As-if”
The idea behind this method is simple – they act like they’re already motivated, and amazingly, they’ll feel motivated. Similar to fake laughing, when you don’t feel like it, it doesn’t take long before you’re actually laughing. It triggers that mechanism.
Try this with them when they have the grumps and you’ll soon both have ‘face-ache’ from laughing so much.
And whilst they have that additional energy, great time to use that motivation for inspired action. Channel the energy in the direction you want.
Together these two tools will motivate your child...
...even when they’re not feeling inspired initially. Remember that action is the key. They act first – the motivation will follow. You and they will be amazed at the difference.
Share with me what your child has been motivated and inspired to do after this.
Big smiles, Annette x
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